I don't usually use this blog for anything political or too personal (although I would argue that books are very personal for me). But I have been having a lot of thoughts the past few weeks (or even months really) about how to talk about what you believe in. A lot has been happening in our country that has polarized the nation.
First of all, I am a person who does not like to discount other peoples' viewpoints. It's the only way that I can ensure I get all the information and understand fully what is going on (as much as I can). In a lot of ways it's like reading a book. I want to find out all of the background information about the major players and events. I need to understand the motivations and context of the story before I can root for any one hero or anti-hero.
My life experiences, education and upbringing have given me a lot of this background. So I always knew I was on the side of things like marriage equality and equal rights for all people no matter their race or culture. However, moving from one city to another has shown me that there are so many different people in this country. And they all have very different views.
So, how do we talk to them? I actually got some great advice from a book about writing. It's about how to structure a sentence. It said that the job of a sentence is to convey information. So when I talk to people who don't share my beliefs, I try to make my sentences more informational then emotional. Of course, that's not always going to happen. Because these are emotional issues. People's lives are at stake here. So of course it should be emotional and personal. But sometimes when people argue against something that would give equality and freedom to everyone it's not because they're against kindness and goodness. It's not because they're cruel and evil people. It is because they're fighting for their own truth, what they believe to be true just as much as I believe in mine.
So it's not about telling the opposite side that they're wrong, but about telling them why you think you're right. Approach things with positivity. With the mindset that we're all good people.
Another one of my beliefs is that no one wants to be a bad person. So, don't treat them like they are.